Every person, from child to adulthood, makes many mistakes in life that shape them to be the person they become. This is a fact. A lot of those mistakes are hard to deal with at the time, and you beat yourself up over the things you could have done differently or shouldn’t have done at all. As hard as these events are to cope through, it is the reality of life and we can only hope we learn from them.

More specifically, when we are young, we are often naive. I am a great example of that. A few years back I really thought that other people were caring, good people who genuinely cared about other people around them. I know there are many people like that out there, so I haven’t given up hope completely. But, unfortunately, those good people are hard to find and the reality is, the majority of people out there just don’t give a damn. After making many errors is business and life in general, I am just a tad wiser than a few years back. Just a tad.

This is my wise face

This is my wise face

Mistakes, whether it be mistaking someone’s good nature, not thinking decisions through, and so on, don’t have to be as detrimental to our minds and lives, overall, if we do one thing: Learn from them. Where I tie the two together (mistakes and naivety), is many of our mistakes, especially at a young age, come from simply being naive. The thing is, we can’t really change this fact, not one bit. If you’re not naive and make no mistakes, you never learn any lessons, and you never grow. Simple cycle of life, an aspect of it, anyway. And it’s ok, it’s ok to be naive, we won’t be forever – Unless we choose to be.

So many people want to blame their choices on exterior factors – other people, emotions, the weather, or my favorite, being naive. Any excuse to remove ourselves from being at fault for their own decisions. Some bizarre voice tells them, “you can’t control it”. But this is total b.s. No one, or thing, can ever have control over your decisions – that is, unless you let it. We fear changes and accepting that things aren’t what we thought, and those very fears self destruct within us, where we soon forget what we are really living for. All because of fear. For those of us who control our own minds and lives, we simply embrace the fear.

This is my representation of a clusterf*ck life situation

This is my representation of a clusterf*ck life situation

Fear is good for us, it keeps life interesting and brings forth change. As the famous Albert Einstein once said, “Insanity is doing the same things, over and over, and expecting a different result”. Word. If this quote was true, which I believe very much that it is, than the majority of our population is insane. Is the fear of change and act of being naive somehow a connection of human behavior? I think so. Especially once we get older. “Being naive” is not an excuse we can use forever, because eventually we are just fooling ourselves. Everyone else around us goes on with their lives, whether that be doing the same thing, or embracing the amazing element of change, and we are only left to answer to ourselves.

So the next time you make a mistake, a bad decision or go through a life crisis, don’t do what’s easiest and most comfortable, do what makes you happy, for the long term. Even if that involves that scary word, change. And, maybe the wisest thing, ask yourself, “Am I being naive, or just plain stupid?”